October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

1 Oct

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, but did you know that  it’s also Domestic Violence Awareness Month?  This post on Co-Parenting 101 reminds us that domestic violence isn’t just about physical abuse.  Verbal and emotional abuse are considered domestic violence, too.  The tragedy lies in the fact that most women in this type of domestic violence situation don’t realize that they’re in it.  If they do realize they’re being abused, they understand that they can’t call 911 to report that their husband/partner just had another name-calling rant.  Women usually wait until violence erupts and even then, very few do report.  Instead, our sisters sit in silence. 

I’d also like to remind you that domestic violence isn’t just against women.  I personally know two men who have just come to realize that their ex-spouses were abusers.  When it comes to men as victims of domestic violence, the silence is deafening.  If this describes you or someone you know, I urge you to check out Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women.  They specialize in helping men abused by their female intimate partners.

The post is the first in a series about co-parenting and domestic violence.  A complicated undertaking of epic proportions, for sure.

For more information on National Domestic Violence Awareness Month check out the link on the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence‘s website.  And for help and support, call The Hotline:  The National Domestic Violence Hotline.

And now for the post from Co-Parenting 101:

Below is the first in a series of guest posts on co-parenting and domestic violence:

“It can’t be domestic violence. I’m not getting hit”

I was married to man for 13-years that I describe as a “clever abuser”.  He was “clever” in the fact that his abuse was almost exclusively emotional and verbal.  He knew a bruise could land him in jail and make him lose his job in law enforcement.

I’ve known him since I was eight and he was eleven.  I knew that his father verbally and physically abused his mother and his stepmother, but it never occurred to me that our marriage would suffer the same fate.  Looking back, his abuse was slow and deliberate.  Within a few years of being married, I was totally and completely under his control.  I had very few friends and couldn’t go anywhere without him following me or calling me incessantly and demanding to speak to my friends who were there with me.  I was constantly accused of dressing too provocatively, flirting incessantly, and of being a cheat.  The names he called me would have made Mel Gibson blush.

Click here to read the rest of the post, it’s worth it.

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